Can You Learn From MY Lesson?

caution-hard-lesson-aheadBeing a positive woman doesn’t always come easy but it does always come with a powerful lesson! Learning lessons and moving forward and being the person we are here to be is a life-long journey.

I wanted an apology from someone who clearly wasn’t going to give one because they didn’t think they’d done anything wrong. Yesterday, after agonizing over it with anger, resentment and frustration for over a month, I realized that if I was going to get an apology, it was going to come from ME.

I had instigated the entire situation and if I’d heeded several strong warnings I was given and stayed in “observation” mode instead of allowing my ego to go where it didn’t belong, there wouldn’t BE a situation to apologize for!

Taking responsibility for what happens in your life is different than taking responsibility for what happens TO you. If you are not part of what happens TO you, it cannot happen. There is never anything in your life you did not have a hand in creating. So life doesn’t happen TO you. You are responsible and recognizing this gives you an amazing amount of power and choice. ~ Kelly Rudolph

I’m usually very conscious of being responsible for what happens in my life, good or bad, but this time I needed another lesson and this was a hard, painful one that I’m glad is over. It is memorable and I’m confident I will heed warnings in the future.

I used an emotional release technique I learned from an Indian Medicine Man 26 years ago that I use frequently. It is instant and there are no remnants that remain afterward. I use this technique often to avoid staying stuck in emotion after a lesson has been learned.

There was a need to be vulnerable and share this with you for your benefit. If it helped you, please let me know by leaving a comment…

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9 Responses to Can You Learn From MY Lesson?

  1. Jonathon October 24, 2010 at 8:45 am #

    Dear Kelly,

    Thank you for sharing your story and helping me open my eyes to the difference between what happens in your life and what happens to you…. very powerful.

    You rock my dear.


    • Kelly October 24, 2010 at 2:51 pm #

      My pleasure, Jonathon. The difference those few words can make in our lives is tremendous and powerful!

  2. Gina October 24, 2010 at 10:09 am #


    There are so many who don’t see this difference. In my book, it takes a person from Victim consciousness to Victorious in that they own their creation. I’d love 2 things, 1 – Where is the quote from? 2 – Can you teach that emotional release technique? I’d like to learn.

    Is there really anything to forgive? Is it not all in divine perfection? Is it not just about our perceptions of what we’ve judged a situation to be???


    • Kelly October 24, 2010 at 2:49 pm #

      Hey, Gina! Your book sounds important! The quote is mine; glad you like it. I teach the technique to those on a spiritual path. Not everyone is ready to accept their power or address their inner strength. It’s one of the things we do inside

  3. Cynthia October 25, 2010 at 9:32 am #

    Hi Kelly!

    Thank you for this post. I will be more conscious about this perspective with regard to a situation in my life right now. Thank you! This was just what I needed to hear!

  4. Doug October 25, 2010 at 12:16 pm #

    Awesome Kelly. As hard as it is to believe, “the outer world is merely a reflection of our inner world”. It seems the first step in growth is owning that we are responsible for ALL that comes into our life.

    This can be a very painful bridge to cross; it certainly has been in my experience. But once we do, it opens up a whole new world of possibilities.

    I appreciate how you’re will to be so vulnerable …


    • Kelly October 25, 2010 at 12:39 pm #

      WELL SAID, Doug!

  5. Arletha Skinner July 26, 2013 at 8:54 pm #

    Hi Kelly,
    I was sitting here thinking about a situation I am in and I agree with you that I created the situation.Like you I ignored all the warning signs, I always try to step back and not be react to someone else’s actions. I lost all objectivity because its someone close to me . After reading your experience I need to take responsibility for creating the situation. Thank you for sharing with us , I was feeling like my life was out of my control. I have learned from your lesson already.

    • Kelly Rudolph July 26, 2013 at 9:24 pm #

      Arletha, I’m so proud of you for learning constantly. I appreciate you always letting me know how you are growing by commenting on my blog posts and articles. Congratulations on growing yourself into the amazing woman you are today. You deserve to be celebrated! Acknowledge yourself for how far you’ve come and give yourself a gigantic hug for ME!

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