Transforming Emotion To Growth

As a woman, have you ever been emotional about something and although you attempt to stay positive, you just can’t? It is important to feel your emotions; savoring the good ones and moving through the negative ones ASAP or you get pulled into a downward spiral.

This can help:

When you get emotional about something, pretend you have an all-knowing friend asking you questions about how you feel and why. Hear her loving, probing questions and answer honestly. You will sort out the cause for your emotion and a valuable answer which will move you forward as you grow through the situation maturely. Kelly Rudolph

Please share a situation where you felt confused or frustrated until you asked yourself solid questions to move through the negative and get back to being a positive woman again.

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6 Responses to Transforming Emotion To Growth

  1. Cheryl Wilms February 20, 2011 at 12:26 am #

    One of the largest challenges that I faced that affected me so negatively was living with my inlaws. We do not see eye to eye on many things and I felt so frustrated because I usually get along with most people, but my inlaws and I continued to butt heads. I also found myself slipping into a depression because it was something I could not fix but wanted to so much because family is so important to me and the happiness of my husband was being affected which broke my heart in a million pieces. I had to then stop myself and ask, “Why are you trying to make these people like you when obviously they are not wanting to like you?”. I then realized that not everyone is going to like me and as hard as that was for me to accept, I finally made the decision to release myself from trying so hard when it is apparent they will probably not like me no matter how much I try. I have come to accept that it is ok not to be liked by everyone, although it would be nice, but I just need to focus on liking myself and wishing the best for them from the sidelines. Now that I have that acceptance and understanding, the hurt has diminished and I’ve been able to move forward again with a positive and loving attitude.

    • Kelly Rudolph December 6, 2011 at 4:54 pm #

      Cheryl, that is a difficult situation and I appreciate how you handled it and the new perspective you have. You are an excellent role model!

      It is true that people often don’t like us just because we seem happier than they are. They don’t know how to get up to our level but they sure know how to drag us down to theirs where they don’t feel so bad. Misery loves company – a sad, true statement!

      Congratulations, Cheryl! Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. I appreciate you.

  2. Ande Lyons December 5, 2011 at 2:56 pm #

    Kelly – that is such a beautiful exercise! It’s an especially wonderful tool to use if you’re in a relationship. It can be easy to take things too personally when exchanging ‘words’ with our beloveds – for whateaver reason – and this exercise is a lovely way to help us return to our impeccable word.

    Thanks for sharing the love!

    • Kelly Rudolph December 6, 2011 at 4:58 pm #

      Thank you so much, Ande. You are right! This is very important in relationships. These little strategies sure can be powerful, huh? Thank you for sharing. 🙂

  3. Arletha Skinner September 18, 2013 at 9:33 pm #

    Hi Kelly,

    I am in a similar situation as Cheryl only minds is with relatives. I was continually getting angry when they misunderstood me or we butted heads over just about everything. I decided to step back and look at the big picture. First, they are adults, second we do not have to have the same view of the world or same friends. After becoming aware that I did not have to be responsible for their decisions and choices, through some some serious self-talking, I came to acceptance. I stop being angry, bargaining or being depressed. I am so much happier after releasing all that frustration. Kelly you are right I feel mature instead of immature.

    • Kelly Rudolph September 19, 2013 at 11:58 am #

      Wow! That’s a lot of personal growth, Arletha. Congratulations.

      I know many people see reaching acceptance as coping out or giving in but it is the opposite, in my opinion. Acceptance achieved the way you did it – the healthy way – is an inner peace and calm. Giving in is playing the victim card and coping out is quitting. It takes a strong person to do what you and Cheryl have done. Way to go, both of you!

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