Body language is language and can make or break our mood and influence how we and others view us: whether they like us, dislike us; hire or fire us; date us or pass us by.
Relationships are impacted by body language before they even start.
With regard to couples, a confident man will gravitate to confident looking women and an insecure man will go for less confident women so he doesn’t feel threatened by them and can still wear the pants in the relationship.
We may feel confident and powerful one day and weak and insecure the next. And it’s vital to know how to adjust our body language not only to show us as we want to be perceived but actually change the chemicals in our brain to cause us to feel differently – from weak to strong.
In this TED Talk, Amy Cuddy, a professor and researcher at Harvard Business School shares extremely valuable information about body language. She talks about how and why it changes our mood, body chemicals and perception of others as well as how to change our body language going as far as to say we can “fake it til we become it.”
We’ve heard the term, “Fake it til you make it,” but now we can learn scientific information about how and why it works from a dynamic Positive Woman who is making a huge impact on people’s lives, as you can see by her TED Talks’ more than 8.6 million views (as of this posting).
Testosterone (the dominant hormone) and Cortisol (the stress hormone) are what cause us to to be either assertive, confident and comfortable or really stress reactive.
In the Positive Women Rock Survey it is apparent that we, as women, would like to feel much more confident in several areas of our lives.
As Amy says, “Our bodies change our minds and our minds change our behavior and our behavior changes our outcomes.” In other words, we can move our body in such a way that the results we see in our life changes.
What do you want in your life that you don’t already have? What would it take to get it? Would it be getting an opportunity with a certain individual? Would it be feeling more confident to express yourself more openly and authentically? Would it be your presence at work, with your children or spouse or with your talent or a passion you have?
What could change for you if people, including yourself, perceived you differently than they currently do?
How do you feel about yourself right now? Are there changes you would like to make to your confidence or self-esteem? Would you like to feel more confident establishing and enforcing your personal boundaries to be treated the way you want by everyone in your life?
I got a tremendous amount of information from this 21 minute video and I’m so grateful to my friend, Kirsten, for sharing it with me so that I could share it with you.
It has sparked me to be even more aware of how I’m holding my body: ankles crossed, small or large and spread out, sitting in the middle of the room or on the side. Some of this has to do with our personality styles and now there is scientific evidence that we can come out of our shells a bit (or a lot) more to truly become who we are meant to be by using body language as one our tools in our Positive Women Toolbox of Awesomeness.
Do the Wonder Woman power pose for 2 minutes and leave me a comment below and let me know how you feel afterward.