Why You Shouldn’t Ditch Your Friends For A Guy

By on April 21, 2013 in female friend, girlfriends, positive, relationships, women communication, YourTango article

Female friendships are one of the most overlooked must-haves for a healthy relationship.

Have you ever had a girl friend who completely forgot about you as soon as she got into a relationship… until they had their first big fight, that is?

Quality friends stand out from the crowd. They value one another and treat their friendships with the utmost respect, rather than getting jealous and catty when one of them gets a guy. Once you begin attracting quality friendships, you’ll start to soon attract quality men (and potential life partners) as well.

Girl Friends | Kelly Rudolph

Important quality gal pal time while you’re in a relationship

But how do you know if a man can live up to your expectations? That’s where quality gal pals come in. They help you stay grounded in your values, gain clarity, keep healthy boundaries and perspectives (when love has a way of clouding perspective), and allow you to vent without blowing up at your partner. Not to mention, it’s good to have a shoulder to cry on when going through a breakup.

Worried that these friendships will take away from your time with your man? In fact, it’s the opposite. Having friendships outside the relationship reduces stress and conflict for you as a couple. So how do you keep your female friendships strong during your relationship?

1. Show how important your girl friends are to your man. Make it very clear how important your female friends are to you so he won’t see them as superficial gossip sessions you can do without. When he understands that much of your confidence (that attracted him in the first place) and refreshing healthy perspectives are nurtured by these friends, he will continue reading at YourTango.com

Comments { 4 }

Law Of Attraction: How To FEEL Your Way Into A Life You Love

By on March 25, 2013 in boundaries in relationships, negative energy, positive, positive attitude, positive energy

If all the books and programs on the Law of Attraction worked, wouldn’t everyone be happy, rich and healthy? Here’s the key and what’s missing from many of them…

I’ve been studying energy (positive and negative) since 1984 and I’ve learned a tremendous amount of information and implemented much of it to create a life I love that gets better every day. Yes, I have my “off” days but I’m practiced at getting back on track and into my positive energy again very quickly.

While it’s true that over the years there have been people who didn’t want to be around me because of my positive attitude, I certainly didn’t want to join them in their dismal world of fear and complaints either. So we parted ways. I don’t know where they are now but I’m certainly happy and no one is dragging me down or guilting me into living small so their misery has company.

Negative people do not, have not and never will fit into my happy life plan and my boundaries are very strong.

If you have negative people in your life, you’ve attracted them and now is the time to learn how you did it so you can adjust your energy and attract positive people instead.

This happy life isn’t about acting happy when you’re not or smiling when you feel like crying. It’s about energy. Stick with me here!

Quantum physics (my simple definition: study of the tiniest units of energy/pieces of matter) proves everything is vibrating and nothing is still or solid. Yes, it seems your body and that chair you’re sitting on are solid but viewed through the most powerful microscope, the pieces of matter that make up both aren’t even touching one another!

Everything is made of energy that magnetizes to other energy which is vibrating at the same rate – high or low. High attracts high, low attracts low – and that is the Law of Vibration, which is where the Law of Attraction comes from. You may have no interest in quantum physics so let me share why this is so important to your life, health, relationships, money and Continue Reading →

Comments { 2 }

Is Insecurity In Women Increased By Movies & TV?

By on March 4, 2013 in beliefs, insecurity in women, positive, positive women, self esteem for women

Many of us have favorite TV shows we look forward to weekly but those shows may be contributing to insecurity in women.

Let’s take a look and determine if some of your favorites are doing you more harm than their escape from reality provides in benefits.

TV watching and insecurity in women | Kelly RudolphI’ve been surprised lately that so many movies and TV shows are violence, betrayal and fear-based. Unfortunately, that’s what sells so it also says a lot about our society, beliefs and stress levels. Even children’s shows are extremely violent and it doesn’t matter to the subconscious mind (where emotions are stored) whether or not the character is a cartoon or actor playing a part – the message is the same and heightens feelings of insecurity in our daily lives.

  1. How can a woman feel secure in a relationship when she’s feeding herself a constant diet of shows that include infidelity?
  2. How can a woman feel safe sending her kids to school with all of the newscasts that make school shooters into celebrities, giving them the attention they committed the crime to get?
  3. How can a woman feel comfortable walking down the street or dating someone new when so many shows put doubts in her mind about safety?

When we buy into all the violence and cheating, it’s impossible to feel secure anywhere, ever; not in our homes, jobs, marriages or sending our kids to school.

Although I have my fun, favorite, go-to shows like classic Friends episodes, Modern Family and The Neighbors that always make me laugh, I’ve also been watching Revenge for the actors I like, the intrigue and brain workout I get in my attempt to keep up with the elaborate storyline. And I have noticed I feel tense even before it comes on. And do I really need to be thinking about the plot to do someone in the next day during my Positive Women Rock workday? 

Reality TV shows (cast to create conflict for ratings) raise my stress level too although I find them to be good character studies and fascinating when it comes to Continue Reading →

Comments { 2 }

Got Girlfriends? How To Make Quality Gal Pals

By on February 18, 2013 in female friend, positive, positive women, women communication, YourTango article

quality female friends | Kelly RudolphBecause birds of a feather really do flock together.

I have always been a very positive, outgoing woman but I’ve lived most of my life without positive female friendships. So, I decided to make a concerted effort to cultivate friendships with healthy, inspiring, communicative women, and here’s what I have learned:

1. Like attracts like. So, you must become the type of woman you want to befriend. To avoid needy women, don’t be needy. If you want confident friends, you’ll need to exude confidence yourself.

This first step has great benefits because when you become the type of woman you want as a friend, you become your own first, positive female friend. Think about it. If you want to be around someone who is inspiring, has confidence, lives with purpose and has developed healthy communication, just think of the great company you’ll be in when you become that woman. As Dr. Wayne Dyer says, “You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.”

Becoming your own best friend is extra important because attracting positive female friendships may take some time. You may need to go alone to social functions occasionally until you attract the friends you seek. It will be much more fun and will help build your confidence if, in addition to feeling good about yourself, you feel good being with yourself.

2. Take your time and trust the process. Write down the characteristics you want in a friend. We already discussed a few good ones above so feel free to start with those. Then, visualize a fun lunch date at a coffee shop or a weekend getaway with your girlfriends. Maybe you’d like to begin with single female friends so you can continue reading at YourTango.com

Comments { 1 }

Take A Vacation; Boost Your Libido?

By on February 13, 2013 in anxiety in women, Empowering, healthy, positive, relationships, YourTango article

vacation | Kelly RudolphPlus: Take a daily mini-vacation without going anywhere in 10 simple steps!

A recent study shows there are many benefits associated with taking a vacation, including feeling better, managing stress more effectively, improving sleep patterns, reducing blood pressure, strengthening relationships, living longer and increasing libido. The same study determined that most people deem themselves too busy to take a vacation and, as you can imagine, economic concerns enter into this decision as well. In fact, you might say, “I don’t have time” to avoid admitting the more embarrassing truth — “I can’t afford it.” Unfortunately, this cover-up takes a toll on our mental health and is stressful in itself.

Although commercials, websites and brochures show peaceful, relaxing pictures, there are many details that go into a successful vacation. If just one of those is out of whack, like a flight delay or a mistake in hotel reservation, the fun, stress-relieving experience you planned and looked forward to could become more stressful than staying home. Fortunately, it is possible to have a more relaxing, peaceful life every day.

You see, the subconscious mind does not know the difference between what is imagined and what is real. So the imagination is fertile ground for creating a daily vacation and the subconscious mind will accept it as real, which is why, with practice, you will begin to reap the same benefits of a physical vacation. However, using your imagination in this way requires practice. Here’s how:

  1. Set aside time for two, five-minute breaks per day.
  2. Find a quiet place, sit with arms and legs uncrossed and close your eyes.
  3. Take slow, deep breaths — in through your nose, out through your mouth.
  4. Continue Reading at YourTango.com
Comments { 1 }

Does Your Definition Of Happy Make You UNhappy?

By on January 11, 2013 in definition of happy, positive, transformation, YourTango article

definition of happy | Kelly RudolphWe all have our own definition of happy. Have you ever considered that yours is making you unhappy?

When we picture certain events happening in our lives before we can be happy (promotion, marriage, new home), we look for those specific situations and set ourselves up to miss out on many experiences that may have lead us to happiness in a different way.

  1. What if that thing that transforms our life for the better takes on a different appearance than we’re looking for?
  2. What if we are supposed to experience something other than what we have our heart set on?
  3. What if we are missing the whole point of this life along with fabulous journeys we can’t even imagine because we are so set in our vision and definition of happy that we have become blind?
  4. What if happy is something we become instead of something we find?

How Can Some People Be Destitute And Happy?

Some people are what we would consider destitute, poor and sick and still seem happy. It may be all they know. They are not waiting for something or someone to make them happy. Happiness is already inside them. They are grateful to be here and live each day.

No matter what their situation seems to us, they are likely happier than we are because… click to continue reading my article on YourTango.

Comments { 0 }

New Year’s Tradition Beats New Year’s Resolutions!

By on January 1, 2013 in perspective, positive, positive women, Positive Women Rock, YourTango article

PWRful New Year Playsheet | YourTango | Kelly RudolphBeing single on New Years Eve inspires most women to seek company (even if it’s bad) to avoid being alone. The thought of beginning another year single is almost overwhelming and inspires despair, anxiety, desperation, fear and depression. Even if a less than desirable relationship ended during the year and you are better off for it, there is still a stigma to being single on New Year’s Eve.

A simple perspective shift and game plan can make your single New Year’s Eve the most clarifying and powerful of your life, if you are ready and willing to step away from what others think you should be doing on this special evening.

Read this entire article here, at YourTango: http://www.yourtango.com/experts/life-coach-kelly-rudolph/single-new-years-new-tradition-beats-parties-resolutions

At Positive Women Rock, we do something MUCH more fun, introspective and healthy. You can join us by grabbing your PWRful New Year Intentions Playsheet and filling it in. You can also join other positive women on a webinar to discuss this new tradition. This playsheet is powerful no matter what time of year it is because it clarifies and focuses you and those two things are always in good timing with positive women!

Download PWRful New Year Playsheet here.

Fill it out and please leave me a comment.

Comments { 1 }

How To Improve Confidence – Try vs Practice [Video]

By on November 21, 2012 in how to improve confidence, positive, video

This video is about how to improve confidence by replacing a weak habit with a powerful habit. You will be amazed at 1) how simple it can be and 2) how much of an impact it makes on your life.

(Read or watch video below)

The weak habit is the use of the word try and the powerful habit is using the word practice instead.

Try vs Practice | Positive Women Rock | Kelly RudolphTry creates doubt and since we were children the word was used when we or someone else suggested something we might fail at and failure became a reality. Try comes from weak insecure energy and has a psychological affect on us that in negative.

Practice makes us better and since we were children we’ve known that whatever we practice we improve. Practice comes from strong, positive energy and always has a good outcome!

There are other words to replace try with; the key is to use alternatives that are powerful like “do it.”

When you ask yourself how to improve confidence, realize it can be as easy as adjusting the words you speak to yourself and others. 

I’d love to get your feedback on this topic. Feel free to share this video with those you think will benefit and PLEASE leave me a comment. ;-)

Comments { 4 }

Definition Of Excuses Versus Definition Of Reasons

By on October 23, 2012 in definition of excuses, definition of reasons, self esteem for women

There’s a common misunderstanding between the definition of excuses and the definition of reasons. This is important because while a possible stumbling block may need to be expressed, responsible people want to avoid making excuses.

Someone who makes excuses is a person who drains the energy of others, usually falls short of their promises and is unpleasant to be around. So I completely understand when my coaching clients want to stay out of their story and avoid excuses while needing the truth to be told in order to explain something.

The need to explain and desire to avoid excuses can be a fierce inner battle that creates negative emotions regardless of the topic and whether it began negative or not.

Definition of reasons vs Definition of excusesA responsible person has challenges just like an irresponsible person but there is a difference in how they look at it, how they handle it, think about it, feel about it and the ultimate outcome including the lesson they learn from it, which will be helpful later; something a person who makes excuses doesn’t even acknowledge exists!

We might not get something accomplished and need to explain why. We can share the situation and what got in the way of completion of our intention.

Example of A Reason:

I won’t be able to complete the blog post on the definition of excuses vs definition of reasons this morning because I have clients to coach today. I will complete it this afternoon.

This is truly a reason why something may not get done at the intended time. There is no sign of lack of responsibility. Even stating that you started later than expected is a reason, not an excuse. Sometimes illness is a reason – a valid reason if there truly is an illness.

A person of lower integrity may Continue Reading →

Comments { 12 }

Say “NO” To Overwhelm And Get On With The Life You Deserve

By on October 3, 2012 in anxiety in women, coaching for results, epidemic, panic attacks, positive, stress

Are you a woman over 40 who feels overwhelm, depression, stress or anxiety regularly? You’re not alone and you probably know it. There is an epidemic of depression, anxiety and panic attacks among women. The good news, YOU get to choose whether you want to be part of that epidemic or not.

If you want to be part of the epidemic, you will be directed to therapy, drugs, exercise (I’m a HUGE fan of exercise) and possibly surgery for the symptoms of the illnesses stress causes.

If you don’t want to be part of the epidemic, you’re in the right place!

Don’t beat yourself up because you only learned one way to do things. Learn a new way of living life!

If you have yet to say, “NO,” to overwhelm and get on with the life you deserve (and you deserve MUCH more than you’ve been programmed to believe), and are a woman who wants to thrive in your job or career and are passionate about: satisfying relationships, world travel if and when you choose and peace of mind that the world can work beautifully, I’m glad you’re here. Being right here, right now may change your life completely.

Dragonfly Process | Kelly RudolphThis is not a teenager’s brainless vision as one, now banned from my page, Facebook visitor wrote.

This is the first step in learning how to live the life you want… and, yes, you CAN have much more of what you want than you’ve been told. It doesn’t have as much to do with asking for it as it does believing that you deserve it. And THAT is where I come in!

I have developed an awakening process that guides you to create and release what is necessary in a safe, fast, effective way.

The Dragonfly Process isn’t for everyone. There are many women who will choose not to Continue Reading →

Comments { 0 }