Your Underlying Beliefs Rule Your Life

Your Underlying Beliefs Rule Your LifeYour underlying beliefs rule your life: what you do, who you choose to be and how you truly feel every day. Your beliefs rule all of your communications and relationships. You can think one thing and believe another.

Your underlying beliefs are where your results come from, not from what you consciously think or ask for.

This is why you may be surprised when you want something and while everyone is telling you “you get what you ask for,” it is not delivered. If you don’t believe, deep down, that you are deserving of it,  it will never be delivered. As you can see, you really are getting what you ask for, just not what you are speaking because your underlying belief and not your words is what ultimately brings results.

Example: you say you want a wonderful man or career and you don’t get it. Your underlying beliefs dictate that you don’t deserve a wonderful man or satisfying career, therefore, based on the laws of the Universe, they can never be delivered to you. Or if it is, you will destroy it because it is out of alignment with your underlying belief of your unworthiness.

Thought moves through filters and our words are definitely filtered. This is why talking to a therapist for 30 years often doesn’t work where a simple hour going very deep into beliefs will heal the most important emotional wounds and change your life forever. It’s why I do the work I do in assisting women to pinpoint, understand and change their underlying beliefs.

Leave me a comment and share what situation you would like to discover your underlying beliefs about.

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10 thoughts on “Your Underlying Beliefs Rule Your Life”

  1. I notice patters of the same things happening over and over again. Just when I think I’ve moved past something and released it, it happens AGAIN! Now, I’m thinking it is deeper than I thought. This post really opened my eyes. I have some thinking to do!
    ~ Francie

    1. Hi Francie,
      You know I’m all for intelligent women, right? Well, sometimes we think when we should be feeling. You used variations of the word “think” 3 times in 4 sentences! This is something we FEEL. Remember that thinking is in our conscious mind and where our emotional wounds and the beliefs they created are lies in our emotions or “feeling” area. This is why it is so important to go deeply with a good coach to express what we never did at the time to move through what is holding us back. 🙂
      Thanks for your comment. I’m sure a lot of women “think” the same way, just like I used to!

  2. Wow, Kelly. I can’t agree enough on THINKING when we should be FEELING.

    I fall into the “over-thinking trap” way more than I’d care to admit. And the more time I spend thinking about things I should be FEELING about, the more time I spend spinning my wheels and getting myself more stuck.

    I believe it was Socrates that taught that we shouldn’t trust our emotions, but lean on logic instead. I’m going to have to respectfully disagree with that belief.

    It’s only when I am able to tap into what I FEEL instead of what I THINK that I am able to really make those enormous breakthroughs and move forward in life.

    I much prefer Albert Einstein’s perspective when he said, “He to whom this emotion is a stranger, who can no longer pause to wonder and stand rapt in awe, is as good as dead: his eyes are closed.”

    Thanks for this great blog post!

    1. Thank you for your authenticity, Kirsten!

      You bring up great points. I agree with you about Einstein’s perspective being more user-friendly for my life too.

  3. I agree with Kirsten and Socrates was a man anyway!

    Women have been taught to “think” instead of feel to compete with men in the corporate world yet we could not protect our children without our intuition, which is FEELING.

    My conclusion: there are times to think and times to feel. We think we know what we want but don’t we ultimately want to feel lovable and worthy? Then, because women are intuitive, we KNOW we would get what we want and that we could create our lives and relationships with people who treat us well.

    Certainly, as women, we must believe we deserve what we ask for or, like you said, Kelly, we will never get it or keep it for long.

    1. Thank you, Tiana. I couldn’t have said it better myself. Remember that Einstein was a man also and seems to have had more confidence, based on his words. A man who isn’t afraid to feel is appreciated.

  4. Great post my friend and so very true in my humble opinion. I know that once I did the Dragonfly Process with you and was able to change my core beliefs a “new” world opened up to me.

    This post is so in alignment to my post of How we ask = what we get…… I do believe unworthiness issues are the cause of a lot of the self esteem problems and thinking that we don’t deserve things in life…. I say heck NO – I do deserve the best mate for me, I do deserve the best job and I DO believe in ABUNDANCE…..

    So many go to therapy sessions and get stuck in victim roles because their core beliefs don’t change….

    In gratitude to you my friend,

    1. I agree, Nancy. And your blog post inspired mine. 🙂

      As we’ve always heard, “talk is cheap.” Belief is really where our self-esteem lies and where personal growth takes place.

      It’s been magnificent to see your progress from the Dragonfly Process! More every day!
      You Rock, BIG time!

    2. Hi Kelly,
      I thank you all so much for helping realize what my problem was. I am always trying to think things through, instead of seeing how I feel about things.

      You have to stay in touch with your feelings because they determine your actions or reactions. As women we are continuously dismissed, called crazy, or sexexercised when we express feelings or dislikes or when our boundaries are crossed by those in our lives who profess to love us or have our best interests at heart. This is the biggest concern because we are silently being controlled and manipulated and taught to believe we are put on earth to be doormats to our families.

      1. You’re welcome, Arletha. It is most important to feel things through along with some thought thrown in. LOL

        We also must realize that we get what we expect and we get more of what we believe to be true. This is where beliefs create our lives.

        For example, if we think women are mistreated most of the time. Our subconscious mind (unconscious), in its attempt to prove us right, will always find those situations where women are being mistreated. If we don’t want that to happen, we must adjust our beliefs and expect to be treated with respect. Our subconscious mind will find situations to prove us right and so we will find that we are treated better, with respect.

        Here’s a good article for you to read:

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